Between the Lines

Larry Dignan, Andrew Nusca and Rachel King

Are your gadgets coming between you and your friends?

By | December 8, 2011, 6:37am PST

Summary: Are your gadgets coming between you and your friends? Your spouse? Brand loyalty to electronics is wreaking havoc in unexpected places.

I’ll admit, the headline to this article makes me roll my eyes a bit.

But Pamela Paul, writing in the New York Times this morning, offers her take on one of those we-all-know-it-but-no-one-talks-about-it phenomena: affinity for gadgets displacing affinity for people — in this case, spouses.

This isn’t about taking gadgets to bed and ignoring the person sitting next to you; this is about brand loyalty. Paul writes that some couples are finding themselves on opposite ends of an electronic fence: one couple is gadget-crazed, the other is blissfully ignorant. Or worse, both are gadget-crazed, but in diametrically opposed points of view: she’s on Team Apple, he’s enlisted in the Android Army.

It sounds silly, but in an age of ecosystems where compatibility makes life easier, it can really become a problem.

Paul describes couples ragging on each other for their gadget choices, with consequential martial strife:

Regret? Or aggravation? Rich Hemlich, a 47-year-old marketing director for an auction Web site, said his girlfriend’s iPhone affinity drives him nuts. “She continually swears up and down that she’s not an Apple elitist but then lights up whenever anybody asks what kind of phone she has,” Mr. Hemlich, a committed Droid Razr owner, said.

He tried to persuade her, to “upgrade” but said: “That’s where we start getting into a battle. She keeps saying she’ll switch to an Android when her contract runs up, but then re-up the contract.” With everything else, “she’s completely straight with me.”

Her conclusion? We’ve all become evangelists, near-religious zealots for our gadget choices. And since personal electronics have truly become an intimate experience, we’re occasionally willing to push the issue — even when it can detract from our relationships, marital or otherwise.

In an age where we’re constantly bombarded each day by recommendations from our friends, it seems it has become even harder to go against the grain. Forget favorite movies or hobbies: tech compatibility has become one more thing to unify — or divide.

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Andrew J. Nusca is associate editor of ZDNet and editor of SmartPlanet.

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Andrew J. Nusca is an associate editor at ZDNet and editor of SmartPlanet. As a journalist based in New York City, he has written for Popular Mechanics and Men's Vogue and his byline has appeared in New York magazine, The Huffington Post, New York Daily News, Editor & Publisher, New York Press and many others. He also writes The Editorialiste, a media criticism blog.

He is a New York University graduate and former news editor and columnist of the Washington Square News. He is a graduate of the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism. He has been named "Howard Kurtz, Jr." by film critic John Lichman despite having no relation to him. He lives in his native Philadelphia with his wife, cat and Boston Terrier.

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RE: Are your gadgets coming between you and your friends?
Dodgson1832 8th Dec
Seriously? Who in hell's name could care more about a brand than about the people in their life? I cannot even believe this was written. My girlfriend has an iPhone and I have a Thunderbolt. She has a Mac Book Pro and I have a Windows 7 desktop (and windows 7 laptop for work). I mean, I wouldn't make the choices she did but if she's happy with them then why should I care?
I never miss a chance to take a shot at my Android owning friends. Even just jokingly if they have no reception or if they make a typo etc... lol. But they do the same so it's all fair.
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May be a non-issue soon
WebSiteManager 8th Dec
Developers will tend towards write once, run anywhere, if it's made possible by any of the tools vendors (and they already are in some respects). Data will be available from multiple clients (apps on devices) in one source (web, more specifically, cloud). So, pretty soon, there'll be little differences beyond the hardware and OS, which may not be half as much an issue. Unless you're just absolutely determined that a certain brand cannot enter your house, compatibility with another person's choices will be largely a given.
Seriously? Who in hell's name could care more about a brand than about the people in their life? I cannot even believe this was written. My girlfriend has an iPhone and I have a Thunderbolt. She has a Mac Book Pro and I have a Windows 7 desktop (and windows 7 laptop for work). I mean, I wouldn't make the choices she did but if she's happy with them then why should I care?

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