Facebook Parenting: For the troubled teen. (NSFW video)

By | February 11, 2012, 4:23pm PST

Summary: Want to see a father shoot multiple bullets into his daughter’s laptop because of a post she made on Facebook? You’re in luck, that’s exactly what you’re about to watch.

Update: Fake: Daughter responds to father shooting laptop over Facebook!

Remember the mother who beat her son for having a Facebook account? Well, this father shoots multiple bullets into his daughter’s laptop (see minute 7:15) because of her behavior on Facebook. At the time of writing, this video has over 14 million views on YouTube, some 60,000 Likes on Facebook, and over 25,000 Shares on Facebook.

Here’s what Tommy Jordan posted on his Facebook account when he first posted the eight-minute video:

Parents and Kids… watch.
Today was probably the most disappointing day of my life as a father and I don’t know how to correct the situation. Since I can’t seem to make any headway with my daughter on Facebook, I chose instead to remedy the problem permanently.

Here’s the video’s description he posted on YouTube:

Warning: Since this video seems to have gone crazy, I figure I’ll post this notice. I’m going to read a letter my 15 year old daughter wrote. There ARE some curse words in it. None of them are incredibly bad, but they are definitely things a little kid shouldn’t hear… not to mention things MY KID shouldn’t say!
If you want to see the original Facebook thread, it’s located at:
http://www.facebook.com/tommyjordaniii/posts/299559803434210
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My daughter thought it would be funny/rebellious/cool to post on her Facebook wall just how upset she was and how unfair her life here is; how we work her too hard with chores, never pay her for chores, and just in general make her life difficult.

She chose to share this with the entire world on Facebook and block her parent’s from seeing it. Well, umm… she failed. As of the end of this video, she won’t have to worry anymore about posting inappropriate things on Facebook…

Maybe a few kids can take something away from this… If you’re so disrespectful to your parents and yourself as to post this kind of thing on Facebook, you’re deserving of some tough love. Today, my daughter is getting a dose of tough love.

Every parent disciplines his or her child differently. I don’t think Jordan’s solution is the right one because his daughter will only think of him as an immature attention-seeking individual (assuming he’s telling the truth, we now know where she gets it from). That’s just my initial thought, as there’s clearly more to this story than what you see in the video. My colleague Charlie Osborne has more to say.

Update: Fake: Daughter responds to father shooting laptop over Facebook!

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HILARIOUS PARODY of this video "Facebook Parenting for the DATING teen"
jesseeckel 21st Feb
This man should not even be COMPARED to someone who is physically beating their child! BIG difference here, are you blind!? &You know she didn't buy the laptop either, I say she got what she deserved. & She will know that when she is older..
@alissadanae

He destroyed the laptop that he bought for his spoiled brat of a kid. Someone needs to stand up to the out of control youth of today. When I was a kid and was misbehaving my dad gave my bike away and told me I could have a new one when I worked for the money and bought it myself. Taught me a great lesson.
@gribittmep

I agree, kids need chores to teach them responsibility before they take the leap to adulthood. The author doesn't agree with his methods but my guess is the author probably doesn't have kids or can't even relate to this man's situation. I have 5 kids and my daughter is 17yo, she wasn't allowed to have FB until she was 17. With great power comes great responsibility and most kids are NOT ready for cell phones or any social media until they learn to understand this complex world we live in. Even at 17 my daughter has a LOT to learn! This was a great way to teach someone a lesson and it's good to see a parent with a back-bone instead of a drone that just rolls with what society deems best!
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@alissadanae

I couldn't agree with this comment more!!! You can't even come close to comparing this man to any type of abuse. This man didn't even verbally abuse his child. He never called her names, he never said he hated her. All he basically said was that he was hurt by what she did and that he felt disrespected. The father clearly loves his daughter and takes good care of her and then some. Shes had it better than me, I didn't get cameras and laptops and cell phones etc. If I did this to my parents they would also think twice about doing anything for me... All the father did was take the laptop away, showed her he destroyed it, to basically tell her that she wasn't ever going to get it back!!!! Furthermore he never fired his gun in the presence of anyone else. Its no different than target shooting. His daughter never earned the laptop, she didn't buy it, it was his anyway. I mean its not like he put a gun to his daughters head. I'm certain the parenting didn't stop at the video and that the father has sat down and talked to his daughter since all this started. Come on people leave the guy alone cause alot of these hate comment make me sick. Those of you who think this father was abusive and should be compared to those who verbally and physically beat their children, You should have YOUR head examined....argh!!!
"I don???t think Jordan???s solution is the right one..."

What solution is the right one? I thought "every parent disciplines his or her child differently."
@Droid.Incredible Taking the laptop for his own use, or selling it, or donating it to a school or non-profit, would have been a much smarter way to get rid of the laptop. Or do you think it would be smart, if your teen got speeding tickets while driving a car you'd bought her, to burn the car?
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It was his to do...
Zorched 13th Feb
@Dunkleosteus: ...as he saw fit. He owned it, not his daughter. You can find countless videos on youtube of people destroying their personal property. As long as they're a minor, whatever is "theirs" is actually their parents, simply because the law accepts that minors do not have the faculties to own property. This is no different. And yes, he had every right to burn the car if he saw fit, as long as he had the permits to do so. Your analogy is impractical however as the loss in dollars is much greater. Now, him shooting out the tires until she paid for new ones and the ticket would have been more likely.

I agree with this parent, even though I have no kids of my own. My parents instilled in me a responsibility and a respect for the value property and others. I was buying my own things with my saved allowance since I was 10. Yes, I got paid for chores when I was young, but I stopped getting paid for them once I got a car and they paid for my insurance and gas. This girl got paid for her chores via all the goodies she got from her parents. It's that simple.
If she's going to whine to the world and throw a temper tantrum, without giving her parents a chance to defend themselves or even state their side of the argument, then I would say she got off pretty lightly compared to the violence some parents would respond with.
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@Dunkleosteus That's hardly the same thing - in this situation the daughter was repeatedly disrespectful and the father tried all the touchy feel good PC crap and it failed. And therein lies the root cause - kids have been taught that their actions do not entail any sort of consequences. I'm pretty sure this girl has found out that her actions - the lack of respect for her parents - do indeed have consequences.
@Dunkleosteus
If that is what he deemed neccessary. After all, it was his property, too!!
@Dunkleosteus Smarter based on what? Sure there is good in donating and he would have gotten some money if he sold it but it would be smarter based on what your opinion? I wouldn't burn my kids car for getting a ticket but I know people that could and not even think twice about the money lost. Guess what, shooting the laptop or burning the car goes a lot further in getting the point across than selling or donating either one.
This is wrong at so many levels. The guy is hoping to undo fifteen years of bad parenting in an 8 minutes video. He enforces respect instead of earning it. He teaches that destroying other people's property is the right course of action to resolve relatively small issues. He destroyed her only tool for venting, so that he may squash her. Instead of listening to the message she leaves, he decides to revenge himself. Grounding a kid 3 months? What are you teaching? There are so many other things... What he's doing is the same as the Syrian Govnt is doing to its people, but at a smaller scale.
@themarty Hmm, I don't recall seeing Anywhere, in that video, that he blew up or shot his daughter. If she wants to vent, she can do so to her parents instead of behind their backs!

See, the Syrian Government are oppressing their people and this guy is doing nothing more than dealing with character flaws in his Daughter's personality.

And Sorry but, even my wife's bleeding heart nature got upset, when her daughter tried to pull a fast one on her and then referred to her mom as stupid.
@Peter Perry You don't need to shoot people to oppress them.
@themarty And one more thing! You say respectis earned... I guess going out, working 50 or 60 hours a week at his own shop so he can take girl out to eat, to the movies, to buy her new clothes, get her haircut and nails done, feed her, put a roof over her head, provide her with a laptop so she can more easily get an education isn't worthy of respect in your book huh?

Get a clue man!
@Peter Perry If he's at a point where he needs to demand respect from his kid... Wow! I think he failed somewhere.
@themarty, There is no bad parenting involved here, and no oppression either. For teenagers to "test their limits" is a normal part of transitioning into adulthood. Actions have consequences. It is a parent's responsibility to establish rules and limitations, as well as the consequences for violations. If you read any of the follow up, this wasn't the first time, and the father had already warned this girl what would happen if she broke the rules again. She knew the consequences, did it anyway, and he responded by making good on his word.

I think you are identifying with this girl because you're a teenager who also feels oppressed by your parents. AmIright? Well, in a few short years, you'll turn 18 and can fly and be free! Just remember to put on your helmet for when you crash back down to earth. And you will...
@themarty Are you a teenager? I am starting to think so because you continuing thread in your posts seems to be that we can't blame the teenager for anything, it's always the parents fault. If that doesn't scream immature teenager I don't know what does.
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So, you find no fault with the kid?
ego.sum.stig@... 12th Feb
And presume that this is all the result of bad parenting. Never mind, you live in your perfect little bubble, the rest of the world will move on.
@ego.sum.stig@... The kid vented to her peers about something she felt was unfair. Doesn't mean she was right. But she didn't destroy the family car, did not not do her chores (he didn't see she stopped), she didn't get into a fight at school or had bad marks (he didn't say). Because she vented he decided to shut her up. That's oppression. The first time she did this he grounded her for three months. It worked so well the first time...
@themarty No little boy, that is not oppression no matter how many times you claim it is.
@themarty

He should have got out the razor strap and ripped that a$$. Spare the rod, spoil the child.
@NoAxToGrind
Damn straight, but try it in public and you'll have some nosy liberal twit scolding you for disciplining your own child. I'd love to beat their ass as well, but they already threatened child abuse against me.
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@themarty Like I said in the other article on this I completely disagree with you. He's not forcing respect - he is teaching her that her actions have consequences. And he did not destroy "other people's property" but his own property - what did this jobless 15 year old somehow buy the laptop herself? And her only tool for venting? Please, he did not break her hands so she can write letters, something in a diary, ect. He did not staple her mouth shut so she can still whine to her friends about what a horrible dad she has.

And WHAT message did she leave? That she's tired of doing simple chores to earn her fraking keep? Really? She can't be bothered to wash a few dishes, wipe off a counter, sweep a floor? Please.

I was strict with my daughter and proved to her that her actions do indeed have consequences. This I did early on - which may have been his mistake or he was undermined by his ex wife as he did mention a step mother in the video - and as a result I did not have to dole out this harsh of a wake up call.
@Pete "athynz" Athens If you give a laptop to someone, it becomes their property. How do you know he was giving her a few chores. For all we know, he could have been working her from six in the morning 'til midnight. Perhaps not, we have no way of knowing from the limited information we've been given.
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@DJL64 How do you know he was giving her a few chores. That's based on the letter from his daughter that he read in the video - you DID watch the video, right? Even if her version was correct in that she had to make all the beds, sweep all the floors, do all the dishes, and take out the trash it's STILL not like the girl is a slave. And if he DID have the daughter up from 6am to 12pm where did she find the time to post on Facebook anyhow? And IF he was doing such a thing I'm sure that CPS would have been involved a lot sooner.
@DJL64 How do we know he gave her the laptop versus saying here you can use this one? He refuted everyone one of her claims. We have no way of knowing but I would take the word of an adult who has line by line refuted every claim over a whining teenager posting something she thinks only her friends will see any day. You seem to want to jump to conclusions that will fit your vision of him being a bad parent.
@themarty He listened to her all right, and what he found out is that she was going around making up lies to insult and disrepect him, her mother, and other family members, and blabbing those lies to the world. You know, freedom of speech has never given anyone the right to slander and libel others. If this girl had a job and wrote those same statements on facebook about her boss, I guarantee you, she would get fired, and depending on how far she went, she could even end up getting sued for slander and libel. Slander is illegal, It is not a right and never has been. Making up lies to insult your parents is not a right, and making children do their chores is not oppression. This girl seems to expect her parents to do all the cooking, cleaning, and wait on her hand and foot, while also expecting them to go to work, and earn all the money to buy her everything she wants.. They ask her to help out by doing her fair share around the house, and she retaliates by throwing a self-entitled hissy fit, in an attempt to keep her servants in line. Only this time, her servants are fed up.

Her parents are the peasants in this video, rebelling against the oppression and reign of tyranny of Princess Lazy Butt.
@themarty

I understand this offends you. It would have offended me too, when I was a teen.

When you are an adult yourself, you will understand.
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@themarty
If Doctor Spock was successful at any of his liberal, whiny, don't discipline your children, in fact make them your friend tactics. it shows in you. You want irresponsible friends go visit a local crack house. You want responsible kids raise them with a switch. Grandma and Grandpa's generation had their priorities and discipline tactics straight. Oprah and these psychiatrist doctors have made an environment where raising descent children has become many times harder on parents who have far less time to raise them properly. Getting grounded in my youth was far desirable to physical discipline but at least I remember what I did wrong and made sure I adjusted my behavior for the better. Oh and I had true parents not friends, they raised me responsibly.
@themarty - Just so we all understand where you get your view - how many kids have you raised through 18 years? How many of them are sucessful, honorable, and respectful (and I'm not talking about the hippies down at the local OWS)?
@fireman949
You were doing fine until you got to the part about the Hippies down at the local ows. i have been to the local OWS on a few occasions, and I assure you I am no Hippie.there were several other people there that wasnot Hippieesq, either!!
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@themarty He did NOT destroy "other peoples' property"; he destroyed HIS OWN property. That's the nice thing about this country - so far - one can do largely what one wants with ones OWN property.

A arguable point has been made that he could have donated the machine to a worthy charity, but nevertheless, the machine is HIS. There is some value is a bit of drama and theater, which shooting the thing clearly was.

Furthermore, this is clearly not a "relatively small" issue. It is a larger and recurring one. The child did not learn from the previous occurrences so upping the ante is precisely in order.
@themarty I bet you think a time out fixes everything too don't you. What do you know about his parenting over the past fifteen years. For all you know he has been one of the best parents ever, you just want to assume he was bad so you can blame all of it on him. Destroying other peoples property? What are you talking about, he owned the laptop not her. Only tool for venting was FB or the laptop? Really, nobody in this world ever had a way to vent before computers and/or FB, you have to be kidding me.
This guy was Angry and maybe there were easier ways of dealing with this but, I don't have a problem with what he did here! I think he did right by the girl and she will respect him more in the future for it...

To the arse with the "parent" of the year comments. I was very strict with my daughter and my wife, (early on) would go against me behind my back... Later on, the girl started to turn on her so she didn't over rule me when I wasn't around (I would reinstate the law when I got home anyway) anymore.

Later on that girl reached 18 (believe me there were doubts) and she would watch her mom play the same games with the youngest boy... Funny thing though, that girl would tell her Mom she was wrong for doing that and would call me outraged that the kid was never taught any lesssons by his mom.
@Peter Perry Let me see, if you want to get personal. You agree with this video and you doubted your daughter would reach 18??? I have no doubts my kids will reach 18, and the one who has is achieving really well in life. Both my wife and I are pretty strict too. We don't oppress our kids, we teach them. That's our job as parent.

Demanding respect and getting it are two different things.

That said, if you love your kid and did everything for her, then I have nothing to say but good things about you as a parent, as this is the most important part of being a parent.
@themarty Sorry marty, I'm just not buying into that. Requiring children do their fair share around the house is not oppression, and equating taking away a teenager's laptop, to murdering people in Syria is both ludicrous and immature. Oh, I said the same types of things when I was a teenager, but I also know that it's a typical teenage attitude that almost everyone grows out of, right about the time they reach their 20s.

Author Mark Twain made the following observation about this phenomena, as follows: "When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in just seven years."
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I said it in the other article about this
Michael Alan Goff 12th Feb
he went too far >>;
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@Michael Alan Goff
Oh God forbid, the poor notebook!
@partman1969@...

What's the lesson to be learned? Guns solve everything? Don't say something he doesn't personally like?

Tell me a good lesson she learned, and how it couldn't/shouldn't have been taught a different way.
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@Michael Alan Goff What was the lesson learned? Are you kidding? She was told after a previous FB incident not to do it again but she did anyway. Obvious lesson learned was there are consequences for actions. You have got to be either anti gun or have zero experience with firearms for your takeaway to be guns solve everything. The only thing the gun brought to this was making a more dramatic point. If he would have used a hammer people wouldn't have compared it to bludgeoning his daughter with the hammer but since a gun was used they jump to "guns solve everything".
@Michael Alan Goff Then explain how.
A lesson she will not forget but what has she learned?
@Agnostic_OS

Guns solve everything?
Don't say something the guy with the gun doesn't like?
@Michael Alan Goff
Yep, it does but I was thinking more of rights and responsibilities. "Don't say something the guy with the gun doesn't like?" works though!
It works, and it is a horrible lesson. :P
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@Michael Alan Goff How would this have been any different if he had used a hammer to destroy the laptop? The laptop still would have been destroyed wouldn't it? Would you then say the lesson was "Hammers solve everything"? The only thing the hammer brought to the video was a more dramatic end to the laptop. The gun was used in a responsible manner, was not pointed at anybody, nobody was threatened in any way with the gun and in fact nobody was even around. So apart from what appears to be a fear guns or a fear of others being allowed to own and use guns what exactly was wrong with the gun in the video?
@Agnostic_OS
She learned that your big mouth can get you in trouble. You, like many commenters, seems to dissagree with the method. That's alright. But the message was riveting. One more thing! Children are not machines. What works with one may not work with another. I have two children, and their response at learning was as different as day and Night, but learn they did!!
@Agnostic_OS Obvious lesson learned was there are consequences for actions.
I don't know the full details, but he might have been justified doing this...however, the taking it and posting it on Facebook is just poor parenting. Punishing a child by taking away one of their possessions is one thing. Simultaneously bragging about it while embarrassing the child on a national forum (after all, we're talking about it), isn't.

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