Father puts .45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

Father puts .45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

Summary: When a teen posts something online, some parents may take more extreme methods to drum home a lesson in what is acceptable and what is not.

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After a 15 year-old U.S. teenager wrote an angry note about her parents but hidden from them on a social networking site, the girl's father took matters into his own hands to teach her a lesson in online etiquette.

The teen's father managed to take the 'To my parents' note off his daughter's Facebook wall. Reading it, the note ranted about how she 'was not their slave' and 'we have a cleaning lady for a reason'. She should also not have to get a job, and 'you could just pay me for all the s*** I do around the house'.

The father, Tommy Jordan, who apparently works in Information Technology, decided to take a novel approach to parenting after his daughter wrote this letter on her Facebook profile and attempted to hide it from his notice.

To skip to the punishment, jump to 7 minutes in.

The YouTube video's description states:

"My daughter thought it would be funny/rebellious/cool to post on her Facebook wall just how upset she was and how unfair her life here is; how we work her too hard with chores, never pay her for chores, and just in general make her life difficult [..]

Maybe a few kids can take something away from this... If you're so disrespectful to your parents and yourself as to post this kind of thing on Facebook, you're deserving of some tough love. Today, my daughter is getting a dose of tough love."

After finding the note, and having warned his daughter over a previous incident, the enraged father pulled out his .45 gun and blasted a round of bullets in to the machine.

In reponse to the media and various reactions this video has caused after going viral, Jordan posted on his own Facebook profile concerning what his daughter will learn from this experience:

The last time she did something completely inappropriate, she was grounded from the Internet for three months. The very day she got it back we had a nice long amicable talk about what was and was not acceptable and that I wanted her to have a chance to prove she was responsible enough to utilize the internet unsupervised.. by exercising her renewed freedom in a responsible way.

The point of this being that proving you can be trusted to be responsible in one venue can lead to increased freedoms in other venues. I ended that conversation with a warning. I told her if no uncertain terms that we had already taken it away from her once. The next time, there wouldn’t be the same chance. If it happened again, "I'll put a bullet through it."

For the Facebook reactions, click here.

Whether the YouTube video, titled 'Facebook Parenting: For the troubled teen' is real or not, it's certainly an interesting way to teach your children about what is acceptable to post online.

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  • RE: Father puts '45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

    Best Dad Ever.
    marbo100
    • Anger management

      @marbo100

      Seems this guy has a problem way beyond his daughter's Facebook post. Perhaps that is the real issue.
      D.T.Long
      • RE: Father puts '45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

        @D.T.Long Hardly. She disrespected her parents way too many times, he told her if she abused the privilege of using her parent's internet then he would put a bullet through "her" laptop. She abused it and he followed through with his threat. Given her letter with such gems as "we have a cleaning lady for a reason" and "you should pay me for all the s**t I do around this house" I'd say the bullet in the laptop was overdue. The girl is a spoiled brat and needs a dose of reality.
        athynz
      • Hmmm

        @Pete "athynz" Athens

        Who is responsible for spoiling her and making her disrespectful?
        And exactly how will bullets through a laptop solve that problem?

        Parenting starts at birth, and not at 15 with bullets through a laptop.
        D.T.Long
      • RE: Father puts '45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

        @D.T.Long 9 bullets. And I've said it before that we as parents - yes I DO in fact have an adult daughter - can teach our children until we are blue in the face but it is up to them to learn. You are right parenting does start at birth and does not stop and it sounds like this kid had a bit of a rough patch - noting the "stepmother" mention in the embedded video - but that does not give her the excuse to keep on with the attitude.
        athynz
      • Millions of "adults" have......

        @Pete "athynz" Athens

        (adult) children and have done/are doing a poor job parenting them, so just being a parent establishes no credibility whatsoever. Parenting is one of the most important jobs we do as adults, and while good parenting principles are well established, there are no requirements to have any relevant skills or knowledge whatsoever to become a parent.

        We know next to NOTHING about this young woman's childhood and upbringing, but we DO know that her father's attempt in question at parenting is less than satisfactory. His current act is probably indicative of the rest of his parenting style.

        We have a much better basis for commenting on him as a parent than on his daughter as young woman. Judging by many of the comments to this blog, perhaps it is not surprising that the US has one of the highest incarceration rates in the world. Putting a bullet through your child's laptop fits that pattern all too well.
        D.T.Long
      • Dad's laptop = dad's right

        @D.T.Long

        He didn't seem angry to me. Just wealthy enough to prove a point using a very memorable object lesson. I bet when he tells his daughter to tow the line with other equipment he owns, she will think harder. Crap, here she is complaining about not getting 'paid' on her laptop that daddy bought her. Really.
        Good job dad. She will remember this life lesson forever and it will serve her well!
        brant@...
    • RE: Father puts '45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

      @marbo100 It's a waste of laptop. Even if it was a cheap laptop, it's very wasteful and there are better ways to make a point. Is he possibly teaching her a lesson? Maybe, but only instills the attitude that computers are dispensable and taking care of, even at its cheapest, an expensive piece of sophisticated equipment doesn't matter. Thereby instilling a lackadaisical, wasteful, and in another sense, spoiled attitude.
      xamountofwords
  • RE: Father puts '45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

    That's great and all, but since he shot her laptop to death, she can't use it to see the video.

    /shrug
    WoW > Work
    • Did you watch the video?

      @WoW > Work
      As the Father points out, her *friends* will see the post to her wall, and she *will* find out all about it.
      use_what_works_4_U
      • RE: Father puts '45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

        @macadam
        I was being facetious, not actually serious.
        WoW > Work
  • RE: Father puts '45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

    When you have problems like that with your kid, maybe it's because you're not that great a parent... We teach our kids.
    IAmMarty
    • RE: Father puts '45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

      @IAmMarty
      Right, because teenagers ALWAYS limit their behavior to what their parents say or do by way of example!
      use_what_works_4_U
      • RE: Father puts '45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

        @macadam Definitely not. You don't want them to, otherwise you're just raising kids who live under your shadow. You want your kids to be strong positive individuals who live fulfilling lives. As a parent, I would have taken that letter as a signal that something is wrong and found a more constructive way of taking care of it.
        themarty
    • RE: Father puts '45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

      @IAmMarty We can teach our kids until we are blue in the face - it is up to the kids if they want to learn or just blow it off. It sounds like she blew off the lessons her parents were trying to teach her too many times.
      athynz
      • Well said (nt)

        @Pete "athynz" Athens
        NT
        use_what_works_4_U
      • RE: Father puts '45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

        @Pete "athynz" Athens , Yeah, keep telling yourself that.

        Parents delude themselves that their little babies are too stupid to know what the big adults know. They ignore that their kids are growing up, until the kid smacks them in the face with the reality that they've grown up and the parent missed it. We all see parents with out of control children at the age of 2 and beyond. To pretend that teenagers are these little monsters with no relation to how they've been parented for the last 15 years of their life... well that's a parent's schtick.

        Teenage rebellion/separation is a normal transition. This girl's acting out seems relatively minor--a facebook rant and the rest is typical (dragging feet to do chores). He just upgraded her laptop... did she EARN that? Or did geek dad just do what made him feel good. In interviews afterwards he stated that they were BOTH learning lessons about the consequences about what you post on the internet.
        royalef
  • RE: Father puts '45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

    He is MY HERO!
    JJ_z
  • RE: Father puts '45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

    A father discharges a firearm into his own daughters laptop?

    = HERO.

    Really, wtf.
    Nitz_Walsh
    • RE: Father puts '45 through teen daughter's laptop over Facebook post

      @Nitz_Walsh

      Ummm - that would be HIS own laptop that he purchased for his daughter to use. He's entitled to destroy it in any legal manner if he believes that she is using it to facilitate improper behavior.
      Unusual1