85% of women are annoyed by their Facebook friends

85% of women are annoyed by their Facebook friends

Summary: There's a fine line between friend and frenemy on Facebook, according to a new survey with 400 female respondents.


85 percent of women say they have been annoyed by their friends on Facebook. A new survey conducted by Eversave, a company that offers daily deals it calls Saves, asked 400 women about their habits on the social network.

The goal was to better understand the impact of social networking on deals. Eversave found that 87 percent of women said they find out about deals by Liking daily deal companies on Facebook and 45 percent learn about savings through their friends' posts.

The results also uncovered the love-hate relationship women have with Facebook. These bothersome behaviors topped the list:

  • Complaining all the time (63 percent)
  • Sharing unsolicited political views (42 percent)
  • Bragging about seemingly perfect lives (32 percent)

You would think that women would abandon the site if they can't stand the social blabber that keeps the service buzzing. Despite the occasional annoyances, however, women appreciate Facebook for allowing them to see friends' photos and videos (91 percent) as well as helping them search and reconnect with long lost friends (76 percent).

The data also uncovered some interesting things about Facebook friendships. While women use Facebook to keep their friends informed about what they are up to (79 percent) as well as share interesting and/or funny links and videos (64 percent), they have little tolerance for friends who use the site to brag or overshare. Survey respondents were asked if they were friends with certain online personalities, and here are the results:

  • The documentarian – they update their status with their every move (65 percent)
  • The drama queen – everything's a crisis with this friend (61 percent)
  • The proud mama – they think Junior's every move is newsworthy (57 percent)
  • The incessant liker – they "like" every post (46 percent)
  • The slactivist – don't they know Facebook can't cure cancer? (40 percent)
  • The poser – they project an image of life so perfect, and it's not true (40 percent)

Women (and men) may want to think twice before accepting a friend request. As for the friends that you already have, if you feel uncomfortable unfriending them, remember there are alternatives: you can always hide their updates or limit what content of yours they can see on the site.

"The survey validated our thinking on Facebook's growing influence on daily deals, but we were surprised by responses that show the love/hate relationship women have with Facebook," Jere Doyle, CEO of Prospectiv, which owns Eversave, said in a statement.

Topics: IT Employment, CXO, Social Enterprise

Emil Protalinski

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  • RE: 85% of women are annoyed by their Facebook friends

    I am one of the 85%. I found FB to be so annoying and fake that I deleted my account recently.
  • RE: 85% of women are annoyed by their Facebook friends

    ...of course the "problem" here is more on the level of social psychology, tolerance, jealousy, different views on what is important, and different views on what the social rules on the platform are and so forth; than it is with Facebook itself. Facebook is just an extension of our human behavior. Unfortunately this study shows a quite large degree of intolerance, to some extent mirroring current society.
  • RE: 85% of women are annoyed by their Facebook friends

    If you take "FaceBook" from the banner headline, you get the big picture. Women are easily annoyed.
    • RE: 85% of women are annoyed by their Facebook friends

      @bobfastner That was *exactly* my thought - and it seems to be built on narcissism. I've got friends that over-share or share unsolicited political views. Heck, sometimes I *am* that guy myself. I'm not super concerned with getting so caught up in someone else's life that it bothers me a whole lot. Oh... and I'm a perfect-lifer, and I see the OTHER perfect-lifers... and you know what... I bet most of them really have a life that is about as pleasant as it seems on Facebook. Sure, the bad stuff doesn't get posted (if it did, they would be OVERSHARERS, right?!?)... but I bet those vacations to luxury accomodations at exotic destinations with the beautiful spouse and always cute and well dressed offspring where they are joined by equally perfect friends... really DO rock - compared to the people who are sitting at home on Facebook spending another Friday online wishing they had somewhere to go, someone to go there with. There is something desperate in looking at someone's "perfect" Facebook life and assuming, "that is just fake"... especially when you're complaining out of the OTHER side of your mouth about the people who are drama-queens and over-sharers. Basically, the respondents here are displaying "Social Networking Goldilock's Syndrome". "This friend shares too much, this friend shares too litte, no one shares JUST the RIGHT amount of information, except ME." Makes me wonder just how much smack my female Facebook friends are talking about me behind my back... but you know what? I don't really care that much. It is Facebook.
  • More like

    95% of smart people are annoyed by Facebook and have vowed never to use it (/again).
  • RE: 85% of women are annoyed by their Facebook friends

    Oh noes! Say it isn't so Facebook! You could never annoy people and cause drama! NEVER!

    Glad I am in the minority of people who have never ever made a FB. It's one headache I don't need.
  • I should know because I was blocked by one

    Her reasoning though was very weird and I think its more about her friends liking my views and creating a discussion around a topic she started. When I responded to any of her post, her friends started responding to my replies and like what I had to say. I will admit, I responded to a lot of that friends wall posts, but she didn't have to out right block me considering I have known her from primary school all the way up to high school. I thought we were friends, it really hurt my feelings. I have kinda gotten over it, but if she didn't like what I was doing, she could have just emailed or instant message saying, 'could you go easy on the communications on my wall'? But blocking me after 15 years of friendship seems like she has issues. Also, I think it has something to do with her education, because I am not some PHD type with 10 degrees behind my name, she feels like I am not worthy to be in her circle friends. I bet if she heard from our mutual friends that I was rubbing shoulders with President Obama, you see how quick she adds me back. Yes, she is that type of person, social climber and wanting to know people in high places.
    Mr. Dee
    • RE: 85% of women are annoyed by their Facebook friends

      @Mr. Dee The calculus of social interactions is quite interesting. Facebook makes some things that are more tacit more explicit. I think Facebook will be an increasingly fertile research ground for social psychologists and researchers.
  • duh! and a at least one male to that equation

    people become even more annoying, rude, and brasin when sitting behind a computer. this is a symptom of our self-centered, rude and greedy society
    • RE: 85% of women are annoyed by their Facebook friends

      @webdevtj Is that anything like Brazen (bold and without shame)?
      • RE: 85% of women are annoyed by their Facebook friends

        @tomthetoe I think she was talking about serving up a nice big bowl of brasin bran.
    • RE: 85% of women are annoyed by their Facebook friends

      @webdevtj I agree!
  • Then hide the posts

    You can easily hide posts from people that are your friends. Either hide them individually or everything from that person. Or better yet don't read it. I find some things my FB friends and family post annoying but I move on with my life because there are bigger things to worry about than what someone says on FB.
  • RE: 85% of women are annoyed by their Facebook friends

    I think if you asked you might find 85% of women are annoyed by their friends full stop, whether on facebook or not. Of course us guys never get annoyed by anyone.
  • Enforceable Social laws with fines

    Funny how people change behaviour when behind a car's steering. You can't recognize them. Funny how people change when behind a keyboard on Facebook. There should be enforceable social laws with fines.
  • RE: 85% of women are annoyed by their Facebook friends

    I've discovered a sure fire solution to never getting annoyed by anyone - ever. This solution however also has a downside. It was the day that the doctor's told me that I should not expect to live a long and healthy life, that my illness was not something simple like an ingrown toenail. I sat there realizing that there would be no one to champion for my cause, that I would be relied upon to be my own advocate. But I was the sick one! I then discovered we live in a world where there are seven billion movies being written and played by its starring role, YOU. But from now on, my life would be relegated to playing bit parts of walk-on actor in the movies of these doctor's lives. Somehow anything Facebook seems so very insignificant to me about now.
  • RE: 85% of women are annoyed by their Facebook friends

    When dealing with people, it is almost always going to be some problems. When people get their lives too much into Facebook, that becomes a problem. I hate opening my Facebook and seeing people complaining about their lives; looking for self-pity all the time or even worse saying things like "I haven't showed in two days" or "I vomited today" and so on. However, I don't think it is harmful to talk to friends you have not talked in a long time. For that part, Facebook is great. It is also nice to connect to people who are not living near you.
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