Cyberbullying: Can we just blame the kids?

By | December 18, 2011, 2:15pm PST

Summary: Most of Generation Y have come in contact with cyberbullying. We often blame the problem on teenagers alone - but is this actually the case?

The prospect of cyberbullying is becoming an ingrained part of the Generation Y online experience.

Anyone can be targeted — whether the high school student, public figure, or online blogger. It can range from a snide comment on a Facebook page, to private video footage released online without consent.

But are we doing enough to limit the damage of cyberbullying, and educate younger generations in how to copy with it?

A recent study by the Pew Internet & American Life project stated that 95 percent of teenagers aged between 12-17 are now online, and 80% of those online teens are users of social media sites. Furthermore, 41 percent of those surveyed revealed that they have witnessed cruel behaviour online either ‘frequently‘ or ‘sometimes‘.

A comparative infographic produced by Check Point suggested that teenagers are the main demographic that experiences ‘unkindness’ online (up to 31 percent). 88 percent stated they had seen examples of cyberbullying.

With such a high predicted rate of bullying online, why is it becoming such a problem?

The consequences of online abuse can be severe. From knocking a teenager’s self-confidence to professional reputations being damaged, it can have terrible after-effects.

Student Tyler Clementi jumped to his death after his roommate used a webcam to broadcast his sexual encounter with another man. Another student committed suicide after suffering online abuse. Others end up in court facing charges of Internet slander and libel.

You can be convicted of ‘trolling’ in the UK — labelled under ‘offensive communications’ — and this can apply to anyone. An example is that of Sean Duffy, who was jailed this year after posting abusive messages and videos about dead teenagers to their grieving families.

It’s not only the younger generation that may not understand the consequences of abusing others online. An ISP address works as a fingerprint — and can be used against you.

There is no true level of anonymity (unless you delve into systems and circumventors that most of the general public don’t pursue).

However, it is easy to create a fake profile online and disguise yourself — an exploit used by both children and adults alike.

It must be taken in to account that bullying online can be accidental in some scenarios. You lose the use of tone and expression, and without those kinds of body language pointers some commentary online can be misconstrued.

It may also be ‘ego-based’ — the ‘I am right, you are wrong, and I am going to prove it until you give in‘ mentality. This kind of ‘abuse’ you see on a regular basis online — and sometimes it is through word choice alone that defines whether it is considered a discussion or abuse.

Throughout my research I discovered a great of online abuse seems to stem from crowd mentality; not so dissimilar from real-life situations. In the same way a group attacking one individual can form ‘traditional’ bullying, a crowd mentality can also be imposed on Internet networks.

This, in turn, can escalate situations of abuse. Once others get involved, levels of attention attributed to the act rise, and generally won’t die down on its own.

In a recent survey it was discovered that only 26 percent of K-12 teachers surveyed have taught kids how to handle cyberbullying.

It’s unlikely many of the younger generation understand the legal consequences of what they’re doing — in the same way that we need to educate in the changing values of privacy, we also need to let children know how to cope with online abuse.

Some kids might be unaware that there are support networks, and something can be done about it.

Teachers should have children understand that online networks are not separate from reality. It is an extension of it. In the same manner, it is governed by a set of social rules.

It’s not only the kids that are to blame. Take to the Internet for research, and there are countless examples of adults seemingly leaving their manners in the physical world and indulging themselves in abusive behaviour. Apart from people that should know better, this sets no good examples for children growing up in a world of online networks.

Social networking sites do attempt to regulate and keep the stem of abuse down, from groups and image captions to wall posts.

But it’s not enough.

Further legislation needs to be put in place to both protect individuals online, and parents themselves need to take a look at their reflections and wonder if they’re teaching their kids bad values.

After all, it’s only online. I’m not abusing that person to their face.

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Charlie Osborne, Medical Anthropologist who studied at the University of Kent, UK, is a journalist, graphic designer and former teacher.

After studying Anthropology at university, she spent several years travelling and working across Europe and the Middle East, living for periods of time in Italy and Spain. She has been involved in the running of several businesses ranging from University media and events to b2b sales, and works currently as a freelance website designer and mobile development specialist.

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sn1cklefr1tz 1 day ago
One of the best ways to hamper or otherwise prevent cyberbullying is to track down the trolls home address via IP and pay them a fists flying visit. ;]
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klumper Updated - 18th Dec
Cyberbullying, as opposed to any other form? As long as it doesn't turn into physical violence or criminal (libelous) actions, this whole "cyberbullying" concept is much ado about nothing as "bullying" is part of life in the real world. From your parents to your peers, from your teachers to your bosses, you learn to deal with such pressures, or turn to thumbsucking and baby blankets.

And here's a novel concept kids -- stop obsessing over social networks, and quit treating the Internet like it's an anonymous zone immune from consequences!

Further legislation needs to be put in place to both protect individuals online.

Yep let's call for even MORE censorship from our learned legislators! All in the name of protecting the uber-sensitive and clueless ones. Sheez, like we don't have enough censoring everywhere we turn, including on boards like this one.

There is no quicker way to turn everyday folks against respect for laws and constitutions than by the use abuse of over-legislation. Learn that above all else!
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@klumper

Agreed. With all due respect, most social networks have a function where you can 'block' comments from specific posters.

I've personally used that on some regular forums and it's not all that hard to do.
@Lerianis10 Apparently you don't have the intelligence to understand that cyberbullying is just another name for HARASSMENT.

It is not necessary to have direct contact with the victim to cause the intended damage.
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@wackoae
Apparently you don't have the intelligence to understand that cyberbullying is just another name for HARASSMENT.

And there aren't legal implements already in place to deal with harassment, if such actions meet the established legal mark?

Exactly how much additional legislation and mollycoddling do you propose to put in place to protect people in the Internet zone? And please don't tell me me you're not aware of what high handed or excessive legislation leads to, invariably. Just look at present day France and Germany, where the population runs around half-gagged (shades of where America is quickly heading).
@Lerianis10

That (block feature) doesn't necessarily help in the case of the hidden web cam broadcast, or even someone spreading lies and rumors or embarassing private information. The block feature only makes it invisible to you. Just because you don't see it on your feed doesn't mean it won't reach you one way or another.

I'm not advocating legislating it to death, but I think awareness and education are important. While in many ways, it's not much different from in person bullying or spreading lies and rumors about someone, but the Internet and social networking certainly do make it much easier from a mass communication perspective, and certainly add a new wrinkle to it in the fact it can be multimedia.
@piousmonk
About the webcam - people need to understand that if it's connected to the internet it can probably be turned on remotely. So - don't have sex in front of a webcam unless you want it to be public. Don't video tape sex in general, unless you want it to be public (any video, audio or photograph evidence is one step away from being public in the event of a bad breakup).

Furthermore, legislation won't solve anything. If someone posts a video of you that you find so shameful you'll kill yourself over it, then it doesn't matter if the poster gets prosecuted afterward, the damage is done. Not saying there shouldn't be consequences, just unless the consequences are very severe it won't stop a lot of the bullying.
@Lerianis10
This is true but at times the bully or bullies will actually set up sites dedicated to attack the intended victim (hate sites) and send a viral email to classmates and others. This form of cyber bullying is just as hurtful and embarrasing as an IM, text, etc. In other words, blocking certain people from your social media page (i.e. facebook) is not a fail-safe against attack.
@klumper this whole "cyberbullying" concept is much ado about nothing as "bullying" is part of life in the real world.

It's part of life, so just move on... Okay, lets take this to the next level. Someone kills your family member, which as we all know is just a part of the "real world"... so lets not try to prevent it... just accept it and move on. Otherwise, you're just turning "to thumbsucking and baby blankets."

Obviously, this example is over the top. But just because something is part of The Real World", doesn't mean it shouldn't be prevented.
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@Badgered
You can't stop everything bad that can possibly happen. Just as you can't protect your kids 100% of the time. What you do is you become a parent and teach them how to cope with it. If we don't teach them to cope with criticisms and bad things, they do things like commit suicide.
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Over the top indeed, and weak to boot
klumper Updated - 19th Dec
@Badgered
Someone kills your family member, which as we all know is just a part of the "real world"... so lets not try to prevent it... just accept it and move on.

A pretty weak analogy if you ask me, and definitely over the top. But I'll play along. You would need to tell me how increased legislation, beyond what is already on the books, is going to stop ANYONE from killing a family member of yours. How do the two even compute in such an abysmal equation?

The same goes for calls for increased legislation to deal with things as nebulous as "cyberbullying." Laws are already firmly established for harassment and libel, and the last thing we need is this mindless continuance of turning to GOV for righting every little wrong, especially when you consider what it ultimately costs society (a la the cash strapped taxpayer).
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@Badgered I agree, and no it's not over the top. Teenagers can be very sensitive as well as some adults to information spread around about them whether the info is true or not. Just a couple of years ago, a young girl had received an email from, a young boy a couple of years older, then her.

They developed a good friendship online, and when the mother(in disguise of the young boy) spread around all this information that the young girl was a tramp and was fat, the girl ended up killing herself.

So while I agree that I don't want to see more controls put in place, offending persons should be caught if possible and prosecuted for their actions, especially where in this case the offender was an adult.......IMHO
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Excellent illustration of the problem
John L. Ries Updated - 19th Dec
@klumper
If the parents (like yourself) think it's no big deal, the kids certainly won't be afraid to do it. But if parents and other authority figures start treating schoolyard bullies like the juvenile delinquents they are, then there's a deterrent.

Reply to klumper:

Looks like we're both thinking of the same set of authority figures, but I might also add police officers and juvenile court judges (I have this persistent fantasy of a young bully being escorted in handcuffs to Juvenile Hall immediately after his expulsion from school). I said nothing about new laws and don't advocate them to deal with the problem. But the response to bullying can't be that it's no big deal and the victims should stop whining, which appeared to be what you were saying.
@John L. Ries

Teachers and school administrators, priests and nuns, police and security officers, more experienced family figures? If so, I have no problem with that approach at all; it's just basic common sense. But if you're also advocating increased and costly legislation to deal with such things, you're out of your mind.

Read rpollard above you for more. Everything starts at home. Then you learn to deal with such things on your own beyond that primary footing. All it generally takes is using your God given noggin' - even when young.
@John L. Ries +100!!
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Right on, klumper!
ScorpioBlue Updated - 19th Dec
We don't need more speech-police laws. If you can't take the crap, go somewhere else. Nobody's forcing you to go online. Nobody's forcing you to click into that social network's site where you're not welcome.

Blame the internet! LOL... If people do drastic things to themselves (like commit suicide) because of what they see online, then they have other issues.
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re:scorpioblue 19th Dec
larue3 7th Mar
where you're not welcome?! No young person should feel as though they can't participate on a social media site. It's a matter that involves a lack of parental guidance and/or involvement. And yes, if a person commits suicide because of cyber bullying, then they obviously suffer from a medical condition, such as depression. I'm not sure what point you are trying to make here...are you a "hater" yourself, or do you just lack empathy?
@klumper

I think you may be confusing bullying with intimidation. If someone is being bullied by teachers, parents, etc. then something's a miss.
As far as cyberbullying is concerned, kids are killing themslves. What ever the means, if it's causing kids to commit suicide something needs to be done. Many of these tragedies are linked to an age group that simply cannot abstractly predict the reactions of others (pre-frontal cortex development). Parents need to be more involved with the goings-on in their kids' lives. Furthermore, maybe parents need to be held accountable for their kids behavior in such instances.

With respect to over-legislation, I couldn't agree with you more; but that's what happens when we as a society can't behave and act accordingly...Big Brother has to step in.
@klumper
Parents need to be more aware of the goings-on in their kids' lives. The fact is, kids are physiologically unable to abstractly predict/understand the reactions of others by their action and/ or words (pre-frontal cortex not fully developed). Maybe it's time to start holding the parents of bullies (cyber and otherwise) responsible. I guarantee you the bullying will decrease. How many lives have to be destroyed or lost, before action is taken?
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Blame the parents
Sqrly 18th Dec
How about parents actually take responsibility for the education and activities of their children?
@Sqrly

While I agree that parents should be responsible for and involved with their children's lives, that's not full proof. Did your parents know everything that you did or that happened to you? I believe my parents were good parents, but I was certainly able to hide quite a bit from them, and that was pre-Internet days.

And, you could be the most responsible parent in the world, but that doesn't mean the parents of the kid sitting next to yours in 6th period study hall is doing the same. It's simply a situation that no matter how hard you try, you can't control all aspects of it.
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The danger of getting caught
John L. Ries Updated - 19th Dec
@piousmonk
"What happens if Mom or Dad finds out?" has been a question young people have been asking themselves for many centuries and has a profound influence on behavior.

If the chances of getting caught are low and not much will happen if the offender is, then he/she won't be afraid to engage in antisocial behavior (unless he/she is very conscientious or has grown up sufficiently). Such has always been the case and always will be.

It's even been known to affect the behavior of adults who are in no danger of physical punishment.

And no, parents can't control all aspects of their children's behavior, but they can control what they themselves stand for and how they exercise their authority.
Have you read "1984"?
Have you read "A Brave New World"?
How about "Fahrenheit 451"?

Censorship IS NOT the answer.

Further, the author greatly overstates the case by pulling in Trolls/obnoxious forum posters and mis-comunications:

"It must be taken in to account that bullying online can be accidental in some scenarios. You lose the use of tone and expression, and without those kinds of body language pointers some commentary online can be misconstrued.

It may also be ???ego-based??? ??? the ???I am right, you are wrong, and I am going to prove it until you give in??? mentality. This kind of ???abuse??? you see on a regular basis online ??? and sometimes it is through word choice alone that defines whether it is considered a discussion or abuse."

These same effects can be achieved in live, face-to-face interactions as well in debates or arguments, or simply through the use of an unintended slight out of anger or carelessness.

Should we create laws to ban that as well?

While we're at it, why don't we purge the language of all negative words. That'll fix it....

The core issues of interpersonal relationships have not changed, the delivery mechanism has. The coping strategies thus may need to evolve. New laws are not needed.
@chipbeef The coping strategies thus may need to evolve. New laws are not needed.

With this statement, I completely agree.
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@chipbeef
Right on... Well said!
Parents, NOT TEACHERS, also need to teach their kids to be more respectful of others. I've heard 10 year olds cursing and screaming obscenities to others in a video game. That's a prime example of lack of parenting.
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Accidental bullying
larue3 4th Apr
I'm not sure what you mean when you say accidental bullying done online. The steps involved in online bullying are pretty concrete and forseeable.
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RE: Cyberbullying: Can we just blame the kids?
moralsareagoodthing 19th Dec
I am appalled at some of the comments I have seen here. Bullying is a part of life? It doesn't have to be and if that is the mindset then maybe we shouldn't have any laws because murder, rape, stealing, etc occur everyday so they are simply a part of life as well, right? It is talking out of both sides of one's mouth. If a person chooses to assault someone else, they have committed a crime. When you hide behind a keyboard to attack, you have purposely gone after someone and in the most cowardly of ways. Cyberbullying has led to suicides and if you think cyberbullying is a "part of like" explain to people like Megan Meier's mother and Tyler Clementi's family. New laws are more than needed.
@moralsareagoodthing
New laws are more than needed.

Better yet, let's all hold hands and just get along. If not, LET'S LEGISLATE IT!
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ScorpioBlue Updated - 19th Dec
Cyberbullying has led to suicides and if you think cyberbullying is a "part of like" explain to people like Megan Meier's mother and Tyler Clementi's family. New laws are more than needed.

Bullsh!t. I remember reading the same kind of crap back in the 90s when they used to blame rock 'n roll for kids hanging themselves, Or all the violence they see on TV or video games, causing them to go on shooting sprees.

No, they have other issues besides the internet, TV or video games. Psychiatric help that nobody wants to accept or pay for.
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klumper Updated - 20th Dec
@ScorpioBlue

Or they will take a limited number of extreme incidents, and attempt to make but another grandiose mountain out of what in reality is a small and limited molehill. When the calls for additional legal scripture come tagging along (invariably), that's when you lose me and my maxed-out pocketbook.
@moralsareagoodthing
I couldn't agree with you more. I too was appalled when reading some responses. It goes to the nature of our society. There is a huge disconnect in the world and lack of respect for the well-being of others. I hear people crying out for less legislation and government involvement, but until we (society) learn how to behave, the need for more legislation and government involvement is imperative.
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moralsareagoodthing 19th Dec
Let me also comment that there are is a false belief that only children are bullied. Adults often times have their reputations destroyed as well. All one has to do is look at the hate/gossip site Topix to see that. That company actually involves cyberbullying. When you don't even have to register for an account and have zero moderation that says it all.
Bullying is invited by the person being bullied. It's all about the attitude. If all you do is play the victim and don't stand up for yourself, you're always going to be bullied, regardless of medium. There's a reason that people that get bullied usually do so no matter how many residence changes they make.

Of course, it's way more difficult nowadays to do this. When I was in school not too long ago, it basically boiled down to popping a few people in the nose. Sure, you might get suspended, but they stop messing with you remarkably quickly. If you did that now, I wouldn't be surprised if the school had the police involved.
@Aerowind

No offense, but that's a pretty naive take on it. In many cases, it's a stronger person bullying a weaker person, or a group ganging up on an individual. Retaliation can often result in escalation of the bullying.

I don't disagree that you need to stick up for yourself, but if someone has an overwhelming advantage, "popping someone in the nose" is not necessarily going to improve your situation, and may even make it worse.
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@piousmonk
You're right; if you're outnumbered, fighting back is a good way to get yourself beaten up worse; happened to me (a nerd) several times, after my father made it clear to me that he'd give me a belt-whipping if he found out I HADN'T fought back against the kids who outnumbered me.
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@Aerowind
So you're saying the answer to bullying is fistfights in the halls? That's a really great answer to the 12-year-old "******" being beat up by the jocks (in packs, of course), or the Muslim kid who's ganged up on in the bathroom by "patriots". I'd be sure to go to the funerals of the kids like that who committed suicide after a long pattern of harassment, and tell their parents that they should have taught their children to be superpowered martial artists, rather than teaching that abuse of other human beings is EVIL.

In Milwaukee, we have Alliance School, a middle- and high school based on anti-bullying and tolerance; but no other American city has a school like that which serves as a refuge for the harassed and attacked kids.
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@orangemike
We're not talking about what happens in person. We're talking about words typed on the internet, usually (but not always) between anonymous people.

So stop being a drama queen and kill the hyperbole.
@Aerowind "Bullying is invited by the person being bullied."

That's a double edged sword. I won't say that isn't entirely true but look at the other end of that statement. What about the kid in elementary school who had big ears or had a funny voice, do you think they were inviting bullying? I certainly don't.
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moralsareagoodthing 19th Dec
While I respect your opinion Aerowind, I respectfully disagree. The problem with cyberbullying is it is a different animal. For example (and I would never do this to anyone), let's say that I didn't like you and you owned a business. I went on a website like Topix or some other site and made a claim that Aerowind is a pedofile. Now obviously that is not true and would be trashy on my part. But let's say that the majority of the town or city you live in read what I had written and some people chose to believe it. It could cost you your reputation and your business. That wouldn't be something you invited, yet you lost everything because of my cowardice. That is what makes cyberbullying so lethal. The same thing can apply to children because many kids have been known to create a fake facebook page and portray a girl as someone who sleeps around, etc. She may not have invited that at all, yet her reputation is destroyed. Did Tyler Clementi "invite" his so called friends to out him?
@moralsareagoodthing I went on a website like Topix or some other site and made a claim that Aerowind is a pedofile.

The thing is that for this, if it could be proven false, you could be sued. However, let's say you found out something that was embarrassing yet true then posted that about someone and ruined his business. That kind of cyber bullying could and I'd guess has in some instances caused real harm.
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HUH??? Why the crap are we even allowing the teachers to teach our kids something that the parents should be dealing with. That's our problem with the X and Y generations. They have no parenting and don't know how to cope. They're given everything on a silver platter and when things get rough they commit suicide. What the crap do you expect is going to happen to your kids if you're not being parents. And STOP letting the teachers do the parenting for you!!!
"Further legislation needs to be put in place to both protect individuals online."

Nonsense! Bullying has been around for centuries. Now that we have the internet and have given bullying a brand new name, some people act as if the concept didn't exist before 1995.

Bullying is always inexcusable, but it is almost impossible to grow up without encountering it. It is ridiculous to think that our political leaders can or should legislate every human interaction that produces pain, embarrassment, anger, or loss of self-esteem.

I was terribly bullied in junior high school. Not only emotionally, but physically. Then, we all grew up. Every so often, I meet one of those people who tormented me then, and I realize that both of us have gotten over it and have moved on.

My heart goes out to the young people who took desperate means to escape their bullies. Too bad their parents and teachers never knew or overlooked the signs. It never has to end like that. There is a lot in this world that will knock you down and hurt you. As parents and teachers, we have to give kids the resilience and the thick skins to deal with it, provide them with the temporary sanctuary of our support, and punish the perpetrators when and if possible. This is a rough world to survive if you are too delicate for it.
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Someone else telling it like it is
klumper Updated - 19th Dec
@sissy sue

Pay attention peeps.
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AlessandraRef Updated - 21st Dec
Thank you for this article. We need more attention and action concerning all types of bullying. I agree and applaud most of the article except your misleading mention of the Tyler Clementi suicide. There is no evidence that his suicide was caused by the images shown to a FEW other students only (they were never "on the Internet" btw, if you mean accessible or shown to thousands/millions of people who have access to the Internet). You are just smearing Ravi (the young man who set up the camera) by giving the impression the incident CAUSED Clementi's suicide. Even Clementi's parents have provided statements that they are not interested in ???harsh punishment??? for Mr. Clementi???s former roommate. The corrupt prosecution in the case has mostly blocked access to computer and phone records from Clementi that could give the defense a much better idea of Clementi's mental state and problems. The man who was with Clementi has declared he will not tell anything, including the truth, unless forced to in a trial. You don't need to do tawdry journalism to underscore your point, there are plenty of other cyberbullying examples to choose from.
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Sorry, Charlie, but Doc doesn't think more legislation is the answer. Parents are the answer. The outlet of bullying doesn't really make a huge difference ??? Doc remembers being bullied a bit in his younger days and that was long before the Internet. Kids can be pretty mean and it's something parents need to be aware of, but I'm against a bunch of laws regulating the behavior of kids. Seems like overkill to me and lets the parents off the hook too easily.
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I think we as a society need to really start cracking down on this Cyber bullying problem. We need to start talking to our children and letting them know that if they are thinking about doing something like this, then this is a serious problem and let them know how wrong it is to do something like this. This could lead to them having charges filed against them. Or let your child know, if they are a victim of cyber bullying then they need to talk to you about it, so you can start to handle the situation.
There are a lot of issues going on today about Cyber Bullying. This is becoming a growing and dangerous situation, especially for young girls between the ages of 10-17. Girls tend to try and humiliate the other person by taunting them and teasing them behind closed doors, without anyone knowing its them. Boys are more likely to be direct and in your face. A lot of times these kids do nothing, and tell no one, they are either thinking it will go away or there is nothing anyone can do to help them. Or they feel that their access to these technologies will be taken away if they tell a parent. Or they may feel like if they tell then everyone will hate them, for getting the person in trouble. There are different ways a person can Cyber Bully someone. You have exclusion which happens when other kids do not invite or ask someone to a party or to hang out with them. Then the bullying party will go on a certain type of blog or website and taunt the excluded person. Harassment involves bullies sending offensive messages a number of times. Outing involves the bully printing out personal messages or information about the victim and showing everyone. You as the parent need to let the child know that they can confide in you about the situation. The one thing you should not do, is overreact, because the first thing that child will do is shut down and feel they cannot trust you to help them.
Researchers had demonstrated a number of serious consequences of cyber bullying victimization. For example, victims are chosen because they may have lower self-esteem than someone else. This may lead to the victim having increased suicidal ideation, and a variety of emotional responses, retaliating, being scared, frustrated, angry, and depressed. A lot of children start having behavioral problems and lashing out at home and school because they dont know how to handle the situation or the issue. The victim begins to avoid family and friends and stop doing their normal everyday activities. There are at least four examples in the United States where Cyber Bullying has been linked to the suicide of a teenager.
Parents can start by helping to prevent these things from happening by talking to their children about this growing problem, even if they have never been cyber bullied before. If your child is a victim of cyber bullying and its someone from school, then the parent should contact the principle and let them know about the problem that one of their students is causing. Let your children know that this is not their fault and someone who would do something like this, is probably dealing with their own issues they dont know how to deal with. Start monitoring your childrens website usage. Let them know that they dont need to open every message that comes through their e-mail. If they dont know who it is, just delete it. If they did receive something from someone they know and they open it and it has things in it that bothers them, tell someone about it. Dont keep something like this to themselves, it wont do them any good. This to me is very important for a parent to do, because there are a lot of children and people out there that are emotional damaged by something like this. I think more school and communities need to get more involved in this. A lot of people are not taking this kind of thing serious. I read on someones comments, were they said when does free speech become cyber bullying. I mean are you serious. When youre calling someone names, and telling them they are nothing and never going to amount to nothing. And when you start teasing them and telling them they are better off dead. Thats where free speech stops and harassing begins. I think there should be a class where children or even adults should be taught how to deal with something like this. Or on how they can help prevent something like this from happening.
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sn1cklefr1tz 1 day ago
One of the best ways to hamper or otherwise prevent cyberbullying is to track down the trolls home address via IP and pay them a fists flying visit. ;]

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